This examine how ASS to transform a friendship-with-benefits into a passionate relation.
Most of the ladies I've coached and advised agree: Laid-back love-making isn't all it's cracked up to been.
Just because a girl may"date like a male" doesn't indicate she won't desire to. Or that she will consider it to be very satisfying.
And besides, in virtually any partnership I've actually seen- even the most relaxed- there's usually one man in it that wants MORE from it.
I've actually had a several experiences on the "desire" side of the equation where I was the one who desired a full-time partnership. And I'll let you know that it's not always the same as men does assume.
If a gentleman sees that stuff are entertaining with you, you've got a nice chance of turning him into your constant sweetheart. But that will come later.
The strange match point does typically grow into more. Of the girls that I've had a everyday friends with benefits partnership, almost all of them wanted to turn me into a sweetheart.
A "real" connection...
Most folks may choose it, if it's done correctly.
Therefore this day, we're going to discuss about how to consider that FWB man- the friends with benefits connection you've got- and change it into a relationship.
It's really all about how to make a FWB your boyfriend, right?
You must first determine whether your situation qualifies as a potential boyfriend.Can you do it?
What are the three ways to make your partner turn him from friends:
When you do a lot of "friend stuff" on the side, the first sign that you can transition from friends with benefits to boyfriend is.
If you find yourself having him over for a movie on Netflix, or a casual bite before you get your casual romp, you might have boyfriend material there.If he were just there for the sex, he would just make excuses and only show up at your door late at night. However, you might have a guy who would want more if he's up for the sporadic hangout before the horizontal bop.
- The next sign you can take" FWB" further is that the sex is awesome...
Whether or not we like it or not, sex is a significant component of any successful relationship. And just because your relationship started with bed-buddies doesn't make it any less likely to succeed.Actually, it's just the opposite...
If you have that solid foundation for a boyfriend relationship with him when you're in the sack, you've got a strong foundation. Of course, it's not all you need, but it's a good start.
- The next good sign is that you feel a sense of trust with him.
Sure, you two may be seeing other people, but neither of you lies or conceals anything. Both you have reservations about the arrangement.Which means you sense that you've got a connection here, and neither of you wants to jeopardize it. And if you play your cards correctly, you could also have a full relationship.
I want to show you three methods for turning a guy from a friend with benefits into a boyfriend.
FWB Fix- STEP 1: Know the risks going in up front...
There is always the potential for someone to get hurt in any friends-with-benefits ( or f-buddy ) situation, but your friends will probably do this before I will.However, ALL relationships have the potential to endanger one or both of the people involved, if you give it that. As long as you're considerate enough to let him know the score up front, you can go in with your eyes wide open.
Just remember that a guy may agree to something, but that doesn't mean he'll continue to be the stereotypical "no-strings-attached" type of guy.
In reality, men develop emotional ties to the woman they are sleeping with.
Men are not the mindless sex-drones the media paints us to be.
So be aware upfront that some men may agree to this arrangement at first, but others may want to do it seriously in the future. Which, if you play your cards correctly, will give you the FWB into the boyfriend relationship you're looking for.
You have to remember that you might not be able to turn your feelings off as easy as you think you can.
After having sex, there is a chemical reaction that occurs in women that makes you feel happy, at ease, and connected to him. You're pushed forward into bonding with him FAST because of the hormone" Oxytocin" that it releases.
So to make a rational decision that you are not going to be attached to the person you are sleeping with can confuse you and can put a dent in your self-esteem.
There's also the possibility that he discovers someone else to interest him before you can work your magic.You can find some comfort in knowing that even if he does, there are still chances that the new girl will just try to convince him to commit to her too soon, and eventually you can pick up where you left off.
Just don't let that challenge of him jumping into this girl's arms make you panic and push you into any kind of clingy moves, okay?
And I probably don't need to discuss safe-sex with you here, but it goes without saying that you must use protection for STDs and unwanted pregnancies, right?
Absolutely.
The next step in making your booty call your boyfriend is now...
Break Out Of Friends-with-Benefits- STEP 2: Stay available!
The biggest error you can make is trying to make your FWB your steady guy by stopping seeing other guys.You'll become needy, which is why that almost always destroys your chances.
Oh, I know... I am aware.
You probably told yourself," Just keep this little arrangement nice and safe for you both.
You don't have to see other people! You're going to get this to work!
What happens when you don't remain present for other guys is that you'll have turned the switch on your head instead of thinking," Meh... I don't care" to" Now I want him". And he will be able to identify this.
All it takes is one more time when you suggest a meeting for dinner on a Tuesday night, and he asks," Whoah, is this a... date? ""?
And it has sunk.
You need to have other guys around to keep you from setting your sights on this guy too quickly.
Why, please:
- You'll benefit from the attention and develop a good attitude.
Let's be real here... having two guys that give you attention and adoration is definitely better than just one.So when you have a backup man in your life, you'll be much more self-assured and less likely to experience neediness and fear.
Just be very clear with any man you introduce into your life that this is the plan and that you are not exclusive.
You'd be surprised how infrequently a guy faces this situation- and how interested he would be in trying it out. A man typically encounters the exact opposite of what a woman who pounces on him and wants him to start dating as soon as humanly possible can.
Don't do that, I guess.
Another reason why you want to keep seeing other guys:
- You'll have a guy to use as a benchmark for him...
You'll occasionally find yourself choosing a guy who's a pretty unlikable partner. But you'll rationalize that he's" not that bad" the longer you're with him.When there are more than one guy in the picture, you can keep your head clear and have a strong point of comparison.
Or perhaps one of your non-FWB guys will start putting in more effort. That's one of the benefits of competition!
Okay, let's get to the last step:
STEP 3: Play it cool... FWB Romance...
The last thing you want to do is to put the suggestion out there that you're interested in making things more serious between you and him.If he's having fun right now, he'll want to get together with you to have more fun. You'll become more ingrained in his mind as he goes on doing that, and the longer he does it.
But if you raise the issue of making your' relationship' a Relationship before he's ready, it's like taking a cake out of the oven too early: You can't put it back in and have it be anywhere near as good.
You must allow the emotions he's cultivating to develop on their own. You run the risk of ruining this new boyfriend-girlfriend arrangement if you make it come up before HE starts hating it.
Remember: the best way to take your relationship up to the" committed and serious" level is to always put him in a position to ask YOU for the commitment first.
You now have him.
( NOTE: Most women can't figure out how to do this, so I created the" Passion Phrases" program. )If you're patient, he will eventually want to test-drive this relationship for real.
And when he finally calls you up or texts you one day for coffee or a quick meetup thatCAN'T end up in the bedroom, you'll know he's down for more than just a sweaty sheet shredding session.
Then you'll be able to tell that you have him.
I need to warn you, though- After a few fun nights spent with your FWB, you may start to wonder if you should meet up for coffee, go see a movie together, or do something else with him.
You'll want to text him the idea and pick up your phone.
However, you must maintain a reasonable level of separation.
Look- I'm not going to kid you: Women don't last as long as men in friends with benefits situations. Simply put, your work is not how you are.
You will eventually want this guy to settle in with you unless you're just ridiculously busy or on the rebound from another relationship.
But the part most women don't know is that it's also not the way men work!
We don't try to find sex-only associations without finally wanting to try the whole package.
The single person who doesn't want a nice, steady sweetheart is the man who is completely against associations, which is only a tiny minority of men over the age of 25.
However, if you want to change a gentleman from your occasional, enjoyable pal into a standard romance, you'll find that if you have the patience to turn a friends-with-benefits situation into a full-time boyfriend. It actually works.
Then, you'll need to expand on what we just mentioned if you want to learn more about how to persuade males to implore you to become your partner.
You'll need a much more weather in your boats to stay that send flying towards the resplendent Area of Long-Term Commitment, but those three measures are a good step in the right direction.
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UPDATED: 10/4/2021
